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Divorce Essentials Triage Checklist

Sort by priority. Set a timeline. Move forward at a steady pace — not everything at once.

"Triage" is borrowed from healthcare — it means sorting by priority. When things feel overwhelming, the key is to tackle what's urgent first, then move toward the steps that set you up for the long run.

How to use this

1. Set a priority number for each item — what needs to happen first?
2. Add a realistic due date. Progress over perfection.
3. Check items off as you complete them.

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This tool uses AI to help you prioritize next steps. It is not legal advice and can make mistakes. Use it to prepare questions for your attorney, not as a substitute.

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Item#Due date

Marriage license & prenuptial agreement (if applicable)

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Marriage license & prenuptial agreement (if applicable)

Birth certificates, passports, & IDs (yours & children's)

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Birth certificates, passports, & IDs (yours & children's)

Social security cards

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Social security cards

Tax returns (last 2–3 years)

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Tax returns (last 2–3 years)

Pay stubs / proof of income (yours & spouse's)

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Pay stubs / proof of income (yours & spouse's)

Bank statements (checking, savings, joint & separate)

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Bank statements (checking, savings, joint & separate)

Retirement account statements (401k, IRA, pensions)

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Retirement account statements (401k, IRA, pensions)

Mortgage or lease agreements

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Mortgage or lease agreements

Property deeds & titles (cars, home, investments)

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Property deeds & titles (cars, home, investments)

Insurance policies (health, auto, life, homeowners/renters)

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Insurance policies (health, auto, life, homeowners/renters)

Credit card statements & loan agreements

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Credit card statements & loan agreements

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List all financial accounts (bank, credit, retirement, brokerage)

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List all financial accounts (bank, credit, retirement, brokerage)

Update or change passwords you don't feel safe with

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Update or change passwords you don't feel safe with

Open your own checking account (your name only)

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Open your own checking account (your name only)

Start a simple budget for expected income/expenses post-divorce

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Start a simple budget for expected income/expenses post-divorce

Gather documentation of household bills & recurring payments

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Gather documentation of household bills & recurring payments

Check your credit report (know what's in your name or joint)

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Check your credit report (know what's in your name or joint)

Close or separate joint credit cards (or freeze to prevent new charges)

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Close or separate joint credit cards (or freeze to prevent new charges)

Change direct deposit if paychecks go to a joint account

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Change direct deposit if paychecks go to a joint account

Track childcare, medical, or household expenses relevant to support/alimony discussions

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Track childcare, medical, or household expenses relevant to support/alimony discussions

Consider a financial advisor/CPA consult (even a one-time call) for tax impacts and future planning

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Consider a financial advisor/CPA consult (even a one-time call) for tax impacts and future planning

Start an emergency fund, even if small (your own safety net)

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Start an emergency fund, even if small (your own safety net)

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Assess current living arrangements (short-term plan)

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Assess current living arrangements (short-term plan)

Research long-term housing options

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Research long-term housing options

Update mailing address (or plan for when you'll need to)

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Update mailing address (or plan for when you'll need to)

Make a list of utilities & service providers (internet, phone, electric, etc.)

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Make a list of utilities & service providers (internet, phone, electric, etc.)

Change locks / update security codes if/when living arrangements shift

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Change locks / update security codes if/when living arrangements shift

Set up PO Box or forwarding address for sensitive mail

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Set up PO Box or forwarding address for sensitive mail

Update your driver's license / ID once address changes

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Update your driver's license / ID once address changes

Identify backup childcare or emergency contacts if parenting solo

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Identify backup childcare or emergency contacts if parenting solo

Document household inventory (photos/videos of valuables, furniture, etc.)

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Document household inventory (photos/videos of valuables, furniture, etc.)

Update subscriptions and accounts (Amazon, Netflix, cell phone plan) to your own payment info

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Update subscriptions and accounts (Amazon, Netflix, cell phone plan) to your own payment info

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Identify your “safe people” — friends, family, therapist, or support group you can lean on without judgment

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Identify your “safe people” — friends, family, therapist, or support group you can lean on without judgment

Schedule one non-negotiable self-care activity per week (walk, yoga, journaling, therapy, book, meditation)

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Schedule one non-negotiable self-care activity per week (walk, yoga, journaling, therapy, book, meditation)

Make a list of grounding tools that work for you (deep breathing, music, movement, prayer/meditation, creative outlet)

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Make a list of grounding tools that work for you (deep breathing, music, movement, prayer/meditation, creative outlet)

Consider a therapist, divorce support group, or trusted professional to talk through emotions and decisions

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Consider a therapist, divorce support group, or trusted professional to talk through emotions and decisions

Track your sleep, movement, and meals — stress often shows up in your body before you notice it in your mind

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Track your sleep, movement, and meals — stress often shows up in your body before you notice it in your mind

Practice setting one small boundary per day (say no, delay a response, or carve 30 minutes for yourself)

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Practice setting one small boundary per day (say no, delay a response, or carve 30 minutes for yourself)

Limit exposure to negativity (social media, toxic conversations) during high-stress days

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Limit exposure to negativity (social media, toxic conversations) during high-stress days

Write down one thing daily that reminds you: you are more than your divorce

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Write down one thing daily that reminds you: you are more than your divorce

Plan a simple way to mark milestones — first court filing, first week living separately (small celebrations matter)

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Plan a simple way to mark milestones — first court filing, first week living separately (small celebrations matter)

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AI-generated summary. Not legal advice. Bring this to an attorney.

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